“I was convinced that in order to be confident in my abilities I needed a coach to grant it to me. In order to be confident in my body I needed a boy to tell me I was hot. In order to be confident in my mind I needed a teacher to give me an A.⠀ ⠀ I spent most of my life thinking that confidence was something other people gave you.⠀ ⠀ One of the biggest injustices that we do to young women is neglect to tell them what confidence is and how it takes on many many forms. ⠀ ⠀ That confidence doesn’t have a “look” or a face. It’s not something you can apply with makeup or achieve with the perfect outfit. ⠀ ⠀ Confidence is abstract. ⠀ ⠀ By definition “Confidence” is: ⠀ • the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust.⠀ • the state of feeling certain about the truth of something.⠀ • a feeling of self-assurance arising from one's appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities.⠀ ⠀ With similar words being: ⠀ Trust ⠀ Belief ⠀ Credence ⠀ Conviction ⠀ Reliance ⠀ ⠀ Oh how the world would change if we just taught young women that being confident meant having conviction in yourself and your beliefs, relying on your own intuition, and trusting your mind and body to achieve your goals.⠀ ⠀ That in order to be confident in your abilities you have to train yourself to do the skill. In order to be confident in your body to have to love yourself enough to take care of it. In order to be confident in your mind you have to educate yourself.”⠀ ⠀ •••⠀ ⠀ I spent the day writing and it just felt like magic. Time flew by and I was sad because I didn’t want to emerge from the bubble. 😅 It’s days like this that remind me that the grind is going to be worth it if I get to do for a living. ❤️ ⠀ ⠀ What’s something that makes you feel like magic? I would also love some of your input on confidence, this is going to be a major theme and I’d love to know your thoughts!
Excerpt from my upcoming book, Becoming Boss⠀