I can admit that I can be a bit of a workaholic and I will sometimes go weeks without giving myself a true break. ⠀ ⠀ Between my 9-5 (more like 9-7 with commute), working out, running a business, and working on book #2, I feel like I’m reaching for scraps when I comes to self care. ⠀ ⠀ The last time I got my nails done was for bridal market... in June. 😬 ⠀ ⠀ I honestly have a really hard time just chilling or watching TV. I tried watching a movie the other night and was reaching for my phone to check IG statistics within 15 minutes (I’m aware this is a problem). ⠀ ⠀ I feel like I’m falling asleep at the wheel here because I’m living in a state of overdrive. ⠀ ⠀ I’ve tried baths 🛁, yoga, face masks, self care routines — but I get bored and then anxious very quickly. ⠀ ⠀ I am seriously asking for your help here Boss Ladies, what do you do to chill TF out? ⠀ ⠀ Burn out is a serious thing and I’m a little tired of my brain feeling like frayed wires. 😅
Below are some amazing responses I got from some incredible women:
I can only speak on what’s helped me - chatting with a psychiatrist and potentially looking at different SSRIs. It has helped me tremendously personally and professionally for all of the above things and stressors you’re going through too. Everyone’s journey is different - I know you’ll find what works for you! Xx💚
My phone goes on airplane mode from 8pm and then it’s me time doing whatever I fancy doing 😊 I also create a “must do today list” and a “it would be nice to do” list.. then it’s not putting myself under too much pressure 💁🏼♀️
A hot bath and a face mask and an episode or two of your favorite show!
I have a hard time slowing down too. My garden and houseplants help, although they can be just as much work some times. Cooking a good meal sometimes helps, scrolling thru quality posts on Instagram (not a million memes) with music playing helps me relax and actually learn quite a bit (as soon as I get envious or comparitis though the phone goes away). Half caff after 2p, decaf after 4. Go somewhere totally different for a day. Find magic and whimsy again. Daily gratitude journaling (working on this myself). Chilling out is HARD when you're so used to being on the go so work on baby steps - only you know your truly favorite things to do so what are they, and how can you do more?
Meditation. The headspace app is great. So is 10 percent happier. You can do it in short little spurts or 2-10 minutes or more. Suuuuuper helpful
Nature works wonders for me. It can just be a walk in a park or a bit of gardening. You’re still active but you’re not focusing on your work. It also helps to put your phone in a box while you watch tv, have dinner or go out for a walk. You don’t need it all the time. I usually have my phone on silent and turned notifications off if I don’t want to be disturbed. Nothing bad has ever happened to me because of that and nobody was ever offended that I didn’t answer the very second I got a call or message.