L O V E - coming from the girl who’s a little burnt out on romance. ⠀

Paige Beaubien Photography

The other day I was at a table with a bunch of girls who were talking about new relationships and exciting first dates when my friend across from me mentioned that she was feeling painfully single, to this I responded, “you know, real life just isn’t that romantic.” ⠀ ⠀ To which these girls jumped into different sayings like, “you should be always treating each other like you’re still boyfriend and girlfriend.” ⠀ ⠀ Here’s the thing, and I’m not trying to be cynical here or rain on anyone’s parade, but in my experience, it’s just not that simple. ⠀ ⠀ Jared and I got together when I was 18, both of us living in our small town, with all the time in the world for each other. ⠀ ⠀ We would go on random hiking trips in Sedona, late night drives around town just because, and do anything and everything we could to be together every minute of the day. ⠀ ⠀ Jump to six years later and Jared and I live together and yet we hardly get to see each other. I work during the day, he usually works late into the night, we both work weekends, and we have to take PTO to get a day off together. ⠀ ⠀ We are paying bills, building up a savings, he has two jobs, I’m trying to launch a business while working full time, and it’s just not a season in our lives when it’s all about dates and romantic gestures. ⠀ ⠀ Not to mention I spend all day every day celebrating other engaged couples. Trust me, it’s possible to set a little sick and tired of proposal stories and everyone wanting to pop champagne all the time. 😅 ⠀ ⠀ Right now, Jared and I are in a season of “I love you” texts after I’ve gone to work before he’s awake. ⠀ ⠀ It’s definitely not the butterfly stomach, sexy relationship we had six years ago, but he’s still my best friend, and he’s still the person who’s going to have my back no matter what. ⠀ ⠀ No, I don’t think real life relationships are what Hollywood makes them out to be, and you’re not failing, or doing it wrong if your love looks a little different. ⠀ ⠀ LOVE is about patience, understanding, forgiveness, and caring for someone as much as you possibly can in ANY season of life. ❤️