It’s taken me a long time to figure out who I am and what makes me feel confident. ⠀ Growing up, I spent a lot of time hiding behind rules, insecurities, and everything I thought I was suppose to be. ⠀ ⠀ I avoided dating because I was scared of being used, getting my heart broken, or being a disappointment. ⠀ ⠀ I stuck with friends that were actually really mean to me and devastating to my confidence because that’s what felt normal. ⠀ ⠀ I never felt like I was pretty or smart or cool or popular. I knew I was enough to get by without raising any eyebrows, I tried really hard in school and worked my way through things below the radar and that was fine with me.⠀ ⠀ It was a non confrontational, easy, comfortable way to be — but here’s the thing, feeling subpar, unnoticed, and scared of literally everything and everyone is exhausting and it wears on your soul. ⠀ ⠀ When I got into real life, I kind of realized that I needed to grow up and stop getting in my own way. ⠀ ⠀ What use am I to anyone if I’m just ducking for cover all the time? ⠀ ⠀ Sometimes I feels good to be in the front lines and know that you can hold your own. ⠀ ⠀ I realized that I had a lot to contribute and I could actually bring value. ⠀ ⠀ I’m not saying that everything’s perfect now — because I promise I am fully capable of still being awkward and insecure, it just doesn’t keep me up at night as much anymore. ⠀ ⠀ Girl, you have a light inside if you, and it’s OK to shine. Who you’ve always been isn’t who you’re required to be forever. You deserve to be every bit as confident and happy as anyone else. Being unseen may be what feels safe, but that’s not where you’re going to thrive. You have what it takes to be a BOSS, lady!