Not Snooty -- Just an Introvert

“You are always so quiet.”⠀ ⠀ “You don’t really talk much do you?” ⠀ ⠀ “Do you understand what I’m saying?” ⠀ ⠀ These are things people have said things to me my entire life.⠀ ⠀ To shed some light on the subject, here are three things you need to know about introverts. ⠀ ⠀ 1. Being in social situations takes a lot of my energy that doesn’t come natural to me. ⠀ Don’t get me wrong, I love spending time with people, but things like events, parties, networking, and social events with people I don’t really know, takes a LOT of energy for me. ⠀ ⠀ Here’s why: ⠀ ⠀ • I’m constantly reading the energy of the room and people I’m talking to. ⠀ ⠀ • I’m actively listening and trying to remember to also converse. ⠀ ⠀ • I’m so worried about seeming quiet or boring that I’m forcing myself to converse and mingle. ⠀ ⠀ 2. Talking exhausts me. ⠀ ⠀ When I talk a lot, my face literally hurts, I start to get a headache, and I truly feel drained. Again, don’t get me wrong, I love having conversations with people, but that’s because I love listening and exchanging ideas. ⠀ ⠀ When I talk and someone’s not really listening or I feel like my words are getting just lost in the air, it’s mildly upsetting to me, so I’d just rather speak when I have something meaningful to say, and I’ll wait until I’ll be heard. ⠀ ⠀ I genuinely really appreciate comfortable silence. I like being in the presence of others, but many times I feel like I have to constantly entertain and feed into the experience — when some of the most special moments are when both parties can just exist in a place of rest. ⠀ ⠀ 3. Other people’s energy and moods highly affect me. ⠀ ⠀ This is why I’m really good at selling wedding dresses. I can tell when a bride feels good, beautiful, happy — or stressed, cornered, and trying to convince herself of something she doesn’t believe. ⠀ ⠀ This usually means that I’m very much behind the scenes during the sales process and I’m very quiet — though, 90% of the time I end up pulling the winning dress because I’ve spent time observing and listening to what the bride actually wants. ⠀ ⠀ All that being said, I promise I’m not snooty or shy, I’m just an introvert. 😅