Respect is earned. ⠀

Ladies, I feel like I’ve been chasing the respect of everyone around me since I was a teenager. ⠀ ⠀ Trying to show my teachers how smart I was, trying to show my coaches how strong I was, trying to show boys how tough I was. ⠀ ⠀ Then as an adult, that desire accelerated to the max and I’ve felt like I had to constantly prove myself to everyone. In fear of being seen as a small town girl, or too young, or mediocre. ⠀ ⠀ I’ve done this through adding as many skills as possible to my resume, working for free, and being the ultimate people pleaser. 😬 ⠀ ⠀ Which has brought a lot of people into my corner and I’ve made some pretty great connections as a young professional. ⠀ ⠀ I just want to clarify something though — getting someone to like you, and earning their respect are two ENTIRELY different things. ⠀ ⠀ People who respect you don’t manipulate you to do their bidding. ⠀ ⠀ People who respect YOU, respect your time, your goals, and your boundaries. ⠀ ⠀ People who respect you know your value and they want to pay you what you’re worth. ⠀ ⠀ Someone can really like you, and still take advantage of you. Some of my harshest betrayals are by people who I really liked, and really liked me. ⠀ ⠀ I can promise via experience that getting people to like you will make you a lot of friends, but very few GOOD friends. ⠀ ⠀ In addition, yes, you have to earn respect from others, but people need to earn your respect too — and they should have to work just as hard for it. ⠀ ⠀ You are just as deserving for someone to prove their worth to you, and your inner circle should aspire to meet your standards as well. ⠀ ⠀ You are not one to be walked over, taken for granted, or seen as any less than the BOSS LADY you are. ⠀ ⠀ Quality over quantity my friends. Stop trying to appease everyone, and start building a circle that cherishes, loves, and RESPECTS YOU.❤️