The main reason why I clashed with my roommates and how I could have avoided it.

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You may not be able to believe this, (or maybe you can😅😭) but I had a REALLY hard time with my college roommates. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ There was literally a point where we were screaming at each other from the top of the stairs and I moved all of my stuff in the kitchen to its own cabinet. 😬 ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ All because of one major thing: ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ A severe lack of communication. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ At the time I was living in a house with three other girls. For the whole first year things were great. It’s not like we were best friends but we cohabited. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ Then it came time to re-lease and one of the girls decided to move out, so I asked my friend to move in. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ Big mistake. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ Little did I know that my other two roommates were planning on me moving out as well, and they were wanting their own friends to take the two available rooms... one of which I was staying in, and the other I just filled with my friend. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ Which ruffled some feathers. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ After a few spats, my (now fiancé) stepped up in my defense, and things just took a turn for the worst.⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ All of a sudden he was a “bully”, and I had been doing ALL of these things that irritated “everyone” in the house. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ When they confronted me with their list, I was truly mortified. I would NEVER want to be a bad roommate. ⠀ ⠀⠀ It was the first time in 15 months of living together that I heard any of this! ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ Then the bad feelings just festered and got worse, eventually forcing my friend and I to break our lease, move out, and find our own place. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ I think back on this time a lot and wish I could have done things differently, and I always come to the conclusion that we ALL could have communicated better with each other. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ When it’s a home environment you need to make sure that you’re expressing your needs as well as being courteous of other’s. This doesn’t mean you have to get walked all over and comprise everything for someone else. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ Trust me they will let you. ⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ You are just as entitled to being comfortable in your home. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ If you have roommate advice or stories please share!