Younger Sibling Syndrome

Sara Cummins Photography

I can be very guilty of having “younger sibling syndrome”. ⠀ ⠀ In a profession where you are helping make a very big and important decision for another person’s life event, it’s very important to come across as professional, put together, collected, and mature. ⠀ ⠀ Whether someone is belittling you, yelling at you, questioning you, or being passive aggressive towards you — you MUST remain calm, cool, and collected... and also smile. ⠀ ⠀ An act I’ve nailed town to a T. ⠀ ⠀ In addition, many of my close friends are a few years older than me, many in further phases of life, so I’ve spent a lot of time and energy learning how to adapt to all different situations and figure out how to participate in conversations I can’t relate to. ⠀ ⠀ Skills that I am honestly really grateful to have and are extremely useful to me, however, sometimes I forget how old I actually am. ⠀ ⠀ That I haven’t had the time, nor have I given myself the chance to make too many mistakes. Then when I do, it feels pretty earth shattering. ⠀ ⠀ I can admit that while trying to hang out with the big kids and seem cool and interesting, I have trained myself to act, and say very specific things, and make sure that everything I do is planned and thought out. ⠀ ⠀ Then when I lose a little bit of that control everything seems to unravel and I make mistakes. ⠀ ⠀ It’s embarrassing, frustrating — honestly feels unforgivable in the moment, and I kick myself so hard for slipping up. ⠀ ⠀ I’m also trying to remember that everyone I’m trying to impress, and all the big kids I want to hang out with have also made their own mistakes — I just wasn’t around to watch them learn from it. ⠀ ⠀ Point is, the failures in life and are going to teach you 10x more than the wins. ⠀ ⠀ If you need someone who’s not going to judge you and will help you through whatever trials you’re facing, that’s what FBL is all about, so feel free to lay it on me. 😂 ⠀ ⠀ Here’s to messing up and being better for it. ✨ ⠀